We, as parents, always have various expectations from our children.
How many times do we pause and think…. whether these expectations are realistic and do not harm the individuality of our little ones…..
As parents of children in the modern age we need to analyse this very important aspect which has a direct impact on their growth.
Are your expectations for your child too high or too low?
Expectations that are too high make a child feel like he is a constant failure. The child will either give up, or put so much pressure on himself that he becomes sick, afraid and stressed and his ability to learn gets completely blocked. Expectations that are too low make him feel you have no faith in him and wipe out his feelings of value. It is important for parents to maintain balanced expectations of children based on their family's values and the child's ability.
Here are some ways to show your child you believe in him:
Be willing to wait to allow your child to figure out a problem, instead of rushing in with all your adult wisdom to solve it. You will be surprised when he comes up with solutions which you may never think of…..Patience is the keyword.
Avoid an impatient tone when your child is learning; remember learning takes repetition and children cannot learn under stress.
Get close and use a touch. Place your hand on his shoulder, back or knee. A loving touch calms children and relieves stress. It gives them a sense of security and an assurance that you stand by them.
Say or silently affirm that he can do it. Use words that convey your belief, "You have such a creative mind, I know you can do it." It will create a positive impact on him and make him confident.
Suggest he visualize the desired result. Ask him what he would like to have happen, and help him make a picture of it in his head. Let his imagination grow and stand by him….this will widen his perspective of life and will teach him to be responsible for his actions.
Follow this mantra and see your little one grow into a young, confident and responsible individual……
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